Because the idea of sexuality is often equated with sexual activity, those of us who are unmarried often miss the rich blessings God can pour out upon us as sons and daughters as sexual beings. For the married person, it means a life of purity through faithfulness.
Godly unmarried sexuality is more than a call to abstain from sexual activity. When it comes to discussions of sexuality, singles (from the never-married teen, to the senior-something single-again, and all those in-between) are often counseled in these sorts of ways: “Don’t! All who live in God’s world belong to him (Psalm 24:1, 2) and are designed and called to live a life of purity.
God designed marriage as a precious part of human life.
Without fire in the form of the sun, the planet would descend into a terminal ice age, with every form of life freezing instantly and irrevocably.
The globe that bathes us in warm light, growing our crops and blushing our cheeks, has been greatly subdued in the process of reaching us from 150 million kilometers away.
Sexuality involves our whole being—body and soul—and refers to how we experience and express ourselves as sexual beings.
Depending on your life experiences, dating can be fun or frustrating.
Having consistently practiced this when they were dating, it was impossible for us and for our daughters to imagine them dating a young man without first openly addressing with him all the principles that follow.
(Each time we did this, of course, it further reinforced these principles for our daughters and for us.) “It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God.” (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5). Sex was created by the holy God of heaven, where purity reigns.
Being a Christian does not make dating any easier, but there are certain principles that provide guidelines for dating.
Do not let the world deceive you into believing that there is no purpose for dating.
This deepened our relationship, opened communication and created healthy accountability.
Though there were sometimes nervous jitters as family members (and especially the young men) anticipated these sessions, in each case the time together was strategic, encouraging and rewarding.
God made sex physically desirable by creating us with sex drives, without which sex wouldn’t exist and neither would people.