While you wait for her to come into her own, here are the best things you can do for your sake, her sake, and the sake of your relationship.Here’s how to date a closet lesbian: It’s not your job to force her out of the closet. There might be times when you need to go out by yourself if she isn’t comfortable with it.But once you’re over that it’s so much easier to express yourself and just be who you are.
Let him be down on himself, FIP, because he SHOULD be down on himself.
He is being dishonest, and his chickenshit closet-case games require you to be dishonest, too.
If time goes by and you find that the relationship truly isn’t working for you, that’s okay, too.
Your feelings are just as important as hers, and if you feel you need to move on to stay true to yourself, that’s fine.
I remember meeting my first (and last) girlfriend’s parents outside of a movie theatre back in middle school and trying to nail the appropriate handshake strength.
There is a customary weight put on meeting your girlfriend or boyfriend’s parents.Maybe this wasn't too much to ask at the beginning of this relationship, when he may not have been sure he was gay, but it's time for games to end.Sit his ass down, wag your finger, and give him a reasonable deadline (say, three months) to tell his mommy, daddy, and friends the awful truth.After being single for a while I just started seeing a new woman, well imagine my surprise when she told me after a few dates that she does not want to be public about where things are going.I wasn’t too sure what she meant so we talked about it and she is afraid of what could happen with her professional life if people realize she is gay and her family is traditional so she has a sort of don’t ask don’t tell policy with them.I can’t decide if it would be better to end things and find a woman who is comfortable with who she is or to be with this woman and hope I can help her feel more comfortable being out. Since this woman couldn’t give you a firm answer on whether being discreet was short-term, you can assume it’s probably “as long as I can get away with.” If you keep seeing her, you may chafe at her limitations.